In August, it was the time I became a man in eyes of my grandfather.
Earlier in the summer, prior to leaving to attend college in Minnesota, I had made contact with my biological for the first time in my life. The experience of meeting my biological father for the first time was an overwhelming experience to say the least.
I was able to get in touch with, meet, and have a enjoyable conversation with Butch, the other person responsible for bringing me into the world.
My grandfather knew that I had made contact with my biological father. One afternoon, Daddy and I were in our garage repairing the door when he asked me this unexpected question:
“What do you think of Butch?”
I quickly replied, “I did not mean any disrespect toward you and mamma.”
“Son, you are a man now. You can make your own decisions. Do what you think is best. I trust you.”
On that hot August afternoon I became a grown man in the eyes of my grandfather. That was my rite of passage, my confirmation, an acknowledgement and a huge transition in my young life.
Do you remember an event, a conversation with your father, grandparent, older brother, uncle, adult male cousin, male teacher or coach who help you transitioned into manhood?
What did they say to you?
When did you know that you were a man?
Have you reached out to other boys by sharing your wisdom and understanding of manhood?
Isn’t it interesting to know that one of the most fulfilling aspects of my life is mentoring boys and helping them transition into manhood?
Happy Father’s Day to all of the wonderful and loving men who are making a difference in the lives of so many!
From My Heart to Yours!
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